Tuesday, February 2, 2016

Take a step back, and breathe.

It's okay to be overwhelmed. In fact, I'm overwhelmed a lot of the time. For most people, it would look like I'm living the dream life. 22 years old, full time job right out of college, living in the city with my boyfriend and my puppy. But sometimes life gets a little crazy and you just want to curl up and binge watch a Netflix series for 10 straight hours (Let's be honest, we've all done that)

Right out of college and I'm paying rent, I'm paying for car insurance and car payments, two different school loans, not to mention paying off my new computer since my dog broke my old one. My job is great, don't get me wrong, but it can be EXTREMELY frustrating. I'm sure anyone whose ever worked in management for an apartment building knows exactly what I'm talking about. 

I get stressed thinking about money, going from not really paying any bills in college to so many bills at once, it can feel like you're drowning. When my dog is being a brat, or my boyfriend and I are arguing over the stupidest little things, sometimes I just want to scream. And then there are just the days when everything seems to be going wrong. These days tend to be on Mondays, I've learned. I just want to stand up and scream, but obviously I can't do that or people might think I'm crazy. 

So when that happens, and you just want to cry, remember to just stop and breathe. Stop doing whatever you're doing. Stop typing that email, or finish your phone call or conversation and just sit there for a second and take a few deep breaths. I can get so worked up and just deep breathing can calm me down. When you want to hate everyone, it can be easy to forget all of the little things that you've fallen in love with. The way your dog looks at you in the morning, the sweet forehead kisses when you've had a long day at work. A nice dinner with a glass of wine, a walk in the park on a nice day. 

It's very easy to get caught up and send that nasty email to someone who is being a jerk, text your mom back a rude comment when she's being too nosy, storming off and being sulky when you're arguing with your boyfriend. But the truth is, those are not great solutions for a problem that isn't very big to begin with. So next time you're frustrated and want to take it out on something- or someone, remember to just breathe. 

After all, it's a bad day, not a bad life. 


9 comments :

  1. I was in an extremely similar situation - right out of college, full-time
    job, paying rent, car loans/insurance, living expenses... I think I was just on the verge of going crazy at some points but forcing myself to make time for me was the best thing I could've done. Definitely helped keep my sanity when my days got too much to handle!

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  2. Aw girl, I Love this! I'm 23 and can SO relate. Although I feel like I will ALWAYS be broke because I'm in grad school. I'm paying for my car payment, car insurance, and I recently just broke my laptop so I had to buy a new one! Luckily, my fiancé owns a home and he doesn't charge me for rent while I'm in school. However, I feel like I'm always behind; like I'm paying bills off with my loan money! I'm in so much debt. Here's to being 22 & 23...

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  3. oh gosh. It gets better. Eventually the bills balance out, but the important thing is to remember that step back and breathe.

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  4. This is such a great perspective! I was in the same boat right after college, and looking back on those years, I only remember the happy times! :)

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  5. I'm slightly older than you but I can relate to what you have said. Sometimes I really feel overwhelmed with eveythong that happens in my life and wish I could go away and live on a deserted island.

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  6. Awesome post!I believe we are all guilty of not stopping and just breathing some time. Life gets hectic and like you stated before we do something irrational or something we can't take back it's best if we just step back and regain our control! Thanks for the reminder and thanks for sharing!

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  7. Your early 20s is definitely a stressful and new time, but it sounds like you're doing a great job balancing it with fun too! It can be easy to get overwhelmed and it is awesome you are learning early that sometimes you have to just relax (and watch a load of Netflix ;) ).

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  8. Early 20s were stressful for me as well. Know you're not alone! It gets better (though being in your upper-20s can also be stressful). Major congratulations to you, though, for already having a full-time job! You're right, just stop and breath. And don't expect yourself to have it "all together" all the time. :)

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  9. I definitely get overwhelmed sometimes and creating is definitely the best fix !! :)

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